Thoughts about Cancer

I have dear friends who are now having, or who have had in the past, personal encounters with cancer.  Two friends lost their battle with it this year.  My father died from cancer 25 years ago, but it still feels like yesterday.  This brings up the old question, “Why do bad things happen to good people?”  I want to know.

The word “cancer” inspires dread.  Although great advances have been made in treating it, its origins often remain elusive.  What causes it?  Bad genes?  A virus?  Environmental pollution?  Toxic food?  Stress?  Karma?  Does anyone really know?

I recently listened to an interview with Colin Tipping, who wrote the book Radical Forgiveness and has led numerous retreats with cancer sufferers.  He has an interesting theory.

He said people who get cancer often have stuffed down emotions about bad things that have happened in their past, whether it’s serious emotional or physical abuse or less traumatic experiences that were simply incomprehensible or hurtful to a youngster who didn’t have the understanding or maturity to put them into proper perspective.

Negative emotions that haven’t been aired and accepted can fester years later into disease.  Mr. Tipping offers some steps to help heal the emotions. They include …

  telling the story (if only to yourself);

  feeling those feelings associated with it again; collapsing the story by looking at what happened from the transgressor’s point of view—why he/she may have acted/done/said/behaved that way;

  accepting the possibility that what happened was part of a lesson the soul chose to learn, and that everything happens for a reason (this is the “radical” part of the forgiveness); and integrating forgiveness into the body by using some simple methods that involve sound vibration.

This is way overly simplistic and doesn’t do his interview justice, but I will say that I found his ideas interesting and well worth exploring further.

Mr. Tipping also suggested—and I’ve seen/heard this from other sources—that we plan our major life challenges before we are born to aid our soul’s evolution.  (Read about Staci Wells in Resources-Intuitive Services section.)  Sometimes we need the direct experience for our own growth.  Sometimes we volunteer in loving service to aid the evolution of another’s soul, even knowing that experience would be personally painful.

But the point here is that the experience is for the greater good of those directly affected.  For those going through this very difficult illness, though, I’m sure it would be very hard—even insulting—to believe you agreed to it on the soul level.

And then while I was contemplating all this, I remembered seeing Heavenletter #4149, Your Left Shoe Cannot Fit Your Right Foot, April 4, 2012, which had arrived in my email inbox shortly after a friend was diagnosed with terminal cancer.  Talk about synchronicity.

I’m reprinting it here in full, with permission from http://www.heavenletters.org/.  (You can sign up to have this free resource sent to you daily.)

God said:

You can know that there is a reason or reasons for everything. You don’t have to know the reason. From the branch of the tree that you sit on, you cannot see that far. Even if you could see that far, you probably wouldn’t grasp what you saw. The point is that you do not have to know any reason. There is not quite cause and effect, nor are events random. Asking Why isn’t quite the right question, for the answer will not be right for you either. An answer will not assuage you. The question Why repeats and repeats itself.

There is a tendency for you to think that if you understood why something occurs, you would feel better. And yet an answer would not satisfy you. You would argue with it.

The thing is you do not have to okay what occurs in life. You don’t have to give your approval any more than you have to give your disapproval. Occurrences in life are occurrences. They occur. That’s about as far as you can go.

Naturally, you want something to make sense to you. From the level of your mind, there is no sense. Explanation cannot solve your heart’s woe. We can say that your mind is like your left shoe and your heart is like your right shoe. Your left shoe cannot fit your right foot and so on. Why bark up the wrong tree? I am not really asking Why, you understand.

When you ask Me why you were born, I tell you that you were born to love. I could ask why you ask. I could ask: Are you so dissatisfied with life that you insist on answers, and, furthermore, you insist on answers that you want even when no answer is the one you want?

I make no mistakes, beloveds, yet if I were to say I had made a mistake, that would not assuage you.

It comes down to this: You have to go on the premise that what occurs, no matter how you protest it, is in the best interest of all, including yourself. Yet this is very hard for you to accede to. How can what you don’t want be a blessing, you ask yourself. It is unfathomable. You crave the details. You can’t quite take My word for it.

Man is like the king in Greek mythology who daily rolled a huge boulder up a hill only to see the boulder roll back down again. This was his life throughout Eternity. He could not stem the rolling back of the boulder any more than you can roll back events in life. You ask, “Why did this happen? How could this happen?” Perhaps the king in the myth continually scratched his head and asked himself: “Why can’t the boulder stay up where I put it?”

Persistence is a good quality, yet there are times you have to pause and take a different direction.

Get on with it, beloveds. You do not have to protest what cannot be changed. What you can change is yourself and how you deal with the past. That is what we are talking about, the past, isn’t it? Why questions come from attention on the past.

Make peace with the past. Do not keep the past alive. You have enough to take care of now. Now is waiting for you. Now wants to engage with you. Now is right here before you. Live not in the past, for you have the present to live in. There is a stairway before you. Look up. Stop looking back. Take a step up. Even when your foot doesn’t know what it is climbing to, lift your foot.

 

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